Do I Have to tell my Partner I Want an Abortion?

The decision of abortion is a serious choice to make as you navigate an unexpected pregnancy. If you are going back and forth about whether to tell your partner you want an abortion, we suggest discussing it with your partner, if you feel safe doing so. 

You are not legally required to receive your partner’s consent before an abortion, but you may consider hearing them out. Sometimes the ‘how to’ part is the most nerve-wracking step.

In this blog, we share helpful ways to talk with your partner about your unplanned pregnancy and the options you’re considering. 

Telling Your Partner the News

1. Explain Your Decision

As much as you may want to make this decision alone, your pregnancy involves your partner. 

To begin the conversation, explain your feelings to your partner rather than just what option you’re thinking over. Starting the conversation with the “why” will mentally prepare him for the reasons you are considering abortion. 

Consider choosing a time that works best for both of you, when you can be fully present and have few distractions. Take into consideration whether or not he’s had a bad day and pick a time when he isn’t already stressed.

2. Listen to His Input

If you want your partner’s help deciding if abortion is the best choice for you, listen to his questions and concerns. Maybe he wants to parent or choose adoption. Or is he concerned about the risks of abortion?

Your partner may have input and advice that you haven’t thought of yet. If you feel you need to, let your partner know his opinion is important to you, even if the final say is yours.

3. Protect Your Safety

Most importantly, consider your safety. If you don’t feel safe talking with your partner about this unplanned pregnancy, discuss your options with someone you trust. Confide in a friend or family member.

It’s best to talk to at least one person about your situation before making your final decision. Take your time, you don’t need to rush.

Get Extra Support

You can discuss your pregnancy options with our team at Nova Pregnancy Help Centers at no cost to you. Our compassionate and non-judgmental staff can provide you with more education on your options and steps to confirm your pregnancy, including an ultrasound. Schedule an appointment today.

You are not alone. We are here to help you. Remember that you are valuable and deserve the best care.